DGP: Smart but Stuck (Rajesh)

 Every smart person gets stuck.

The smart person always try to hold on to their identity that they're smart. When that happens, they tend to try to solve every problems very quickly.

Why?

Because if they delay, then they afraid other might think that they're not that smart afterall or they're being exposed.

So, the moment they get stuck, they want to get unstuck.

What will happen, they'll end up solving the surface rather than the depth.

They need to start reposition themselves.

7 REASONS why People Get Stuck

1. Why is "change" hard for many smart people?

    Change is NOT optional, it is a necessity. Why? The world is changing, so if you want to sync you need to change.

    Smart people are bad at change sometimes because of the control over short term outcomes.

When the thing is new (change), the control that they have will be small.

    To overcome this, they need to tell themselves that they're going thru changes, so it's fine to not be good immediately.

2. Why smart people don't take actions?

    They tend to make phantom requirement that they need certain skill to be fully ready.

    So when they start to learn/study, they'll realize that the content that they have is so much lesser than the real context. They do not stop learning tho becuase smart people don't give up. But the more they learn, the bigger their context get and they feel like their content is getting smaller.

    That's not the case. It's their eagerness that makes them feel like that.

    The more topics / field they learn about, they'll start to feel like in a MAZE and it will never ends.

    The FIXING here is really important. They need to first realise that they CAN'T DO IT ALONE. They need to have good help.

    Instead of saying "I need to do this", they need to start thinking "WHO can I get onboard on this".

Stop thinking your SOLO capability could run a TEAM-based sport.

3. Why smart People struggle to Talk

    It's interesting how smart people can do stuff but for the love of God, they struggle with talking. They can't explain what they do (ME T^T).

    They might want to say 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8, but what they actually say is 1 6 8 because they thought that the others are obvious. They skip it. They THINK the people that are listening can somehow connect the dots.

    This happens because smart people minds are racing at such a lightning speed. They want to process things fast and get things done quickly. So they keep compressing stuff.

4. Why smart people don't share?

    When smart people learn new stuff, they'll start with what they currently have (small bit). And at THAT time, they don't want to share it yet because they'll look bad. "aku pon tktau, kenapa nak share".

    Then when they have reached certain knowledge, it become background knowledge that they thought is 'obvious' so everyone should know, why share? The process repeats every time they learn nwe stuff. They missed the opportunity to share.

    Best thing is to do "time-travelling". Go back to prev years and share with people who struggles the same problem, the same exact thing that we learn or start with pre years back.

5. Why smart people fall hard from the top?

    They will fall hard if they took advantage of other people. They will not just lose that people, but they will also lose the network of those people. The system will be privately evoded. That's how they will fall from the top.

    They need to balance things. Be grateful, practice daily gratitude. When you realise that a lot of people have helped you, you'll not take people for granted.

6. Why smart people don't know their strengths?

    The real question is, how yo do identify your strength? Try journalling, you'll find patterns. Next is thru your mentors.

    Next, noticing what you notice, and noticing what you dont notice. Lastly is to notice the REQUEST that are made off of you.

7. Why smart people SHOULD be NICE?

    Being nice is not a bonus, its a necessity. Being nice is a HUGE competitive advantage.

    If you are nice and people are comfortable with you, you can jump/skip the tribe/level. People know that you're not enough to get or be there yet but because you are super likeable and nice, they will welcome you. So they will start to include you in all conversation as if you're part of them and the next thing you know is you knowledge becomes better. You'll be on the same level as them.

    Sooner then later, you'll grow fast and jump the tribe more.